Darlys J. Hecker

Macken Funeral Home Memorial Photo
Date of Birth:
Thursday, June 16, 1949
Date of Death:
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Age:
62 years old

Visitation

Date: Friday November 11, 2011
Time: 5:00 pm - 7:00 pm

Location: River Park Chapel at Macken Funeral Home [ view map ]

Second Visitation

Date: Saturday November 12, 2011
Time: 9:30 am - 10:30 am

Location: River Park Chapel at Macken Funeral Home [ view map ]

Celebration of Life

Date: Saturday November 12, 2011
Time: 10:30 am

Location: River Park Chapel at Macken Funeral Home [ view map ]

Burial

Location: Oakwood Cemetery East [ view map ]

Macken Funeral Home Memorial Photo
Date of Birth:
Thursday, June 16, 1949
Date of Death:
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Age:
62 years old
Macken Funeral Home Memorial Photo
Date of Birth:
Thursday, June 16, 1949
Date of Death:
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Age:
62 years old

Darlys J. Hecker

Darlys Jean Hecker – Rochester

Darlys Jean Hecker, age 62, of Rochester, MN went home to be with her Lord and Savior on November 8th, 2011, after her courageous battle with cancer.  Darlys was surrounded by her loving family and at home at the time of her death.

A Celebration of Life service will be held on Saturday, November 12th at 10:30am at River Park Chapel, Macken Funeral Home in Rochester, MN.  Public viewing of her body will be from 5:00p.m. to 7:00p.m.  Friday evening November 11, 2011 and one hour prior to the service on Saturday at River Park Chapel.  Burial will later follow at Oakwood East Cemetery in Rochester.

Darlys Jean Schmitt was born on June 16th, 1949, to Ray and Delores (Dee) Schmitt.  Darlys graduated from Winona High School.  She later met Mark Parma, married and was blessed with three children.  After their divorce, Darlys later met and married Robert Hecker, who survives her.

Darlys lived most of her life in the Rochester/Winona area; however, she also lived in Chicago, Texas, and in the Park Rapids, MN area.  When Darlys returned to Rochester, she was employed by Mayo Clinic up until the time of her death.

Today we rejoice in the knowledge and take comfort in the fact that she is forever at home and in glory with the Savior that she faithfully served.  Darlys touched the lives of many people with her smile, courage, and generosity and maintained her sense of humor to the end.  Darlys loved her family and friends and spent as much time with them as she could.  Darlys enjoyed being outside and always looked forward to spring and working in the garden.  Darlys reminded us just how precious life is.

Surviving along with her parents, Ray and Delores (Dee) Schmitt of Winona, MN, and her husband Robert Hecker of Rochester, three sons and one daughter:  Jeff Schmitt of Garland, Texas; Mike (Deb) Parma of Rochester, MN; Chad (Traci) Parma from Harrisburg, PA; and Angie Balkcom of Warner Robins, GA.  She is also survived by her grandchildren: Andrew Parma, Tyler Parma, Craig Parma, Heather Parma, Dylan Balkcom and Alissa Balkcom.  She is also survived by one step granddaughter, Misty (Brian) Lampson-Phillips of Nora Springs, IA, one step great grandson, William Wendell Phillips of Nora Springs, IA, one brother Alan Schmitt of Minneapolis, MN, and many loving aunts, uncles and cousins.

The family would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for all their support and comfort during this time.  A special thanks to Pastor Jim Filbeck and Pastor Bruce Kallies from the Assembly of God Church along with members of the church.  A special thanks to members of the Hospice team for everything they did and every kindness shown during her last days.  The family would also like to give a special thanks to Amy Seegmeller-Renner for being such a great friend to the family and everything she did for Darlys.

Online condolences are welcome at www.MackenFuneralHome.com

Macken Funeral Home is in charge of the arrangements.

Condolences

The family of Darlys J. Hecker has received the following condolences.

I will miss you so much

Mike and Deb.  I am sorry for your loss.  I know this can & will be a diffuclt time in your life.  Remember the good times and know that prayers are going out to you. 

Dear Mike and Deb,

We rejoice that your mom is in heaven.  We were very blessed to have known her.  She was a great lady.  Her smile and charm could light up a room.  We trust you will be comforted and encouraged by the LORD at this difficult time.  Your mom loved you so much and held you dear.  It will be good knowing she watches from the GREAT CLOUD OF WITNESSES.

Most Sincerely,

Pastor Don Noonan and Family and the Rochester Baptist Church

Rochester, MN

Dear Mike and Deb,

We rejoice that your mom is in heaven.  We were very blessed to have known her.  She was a great lady.  Her smile and charm could light up a room.  We trust you will be comforted and encouraged by the LORD at this difficult time.  Your mom loved you so much and held you dear.  It will be good knowing she watches from the GREAT CLOUD OF WITNESSES.

Most Sincerely,

Pastor Don Noonan and Family and the Rochester Baptist Church

Rochester, MN

hi , so sorry for your loss , but yes Darlys is where she should be , with God an the Angles as she was one of them. i have not known her long , but loved her the  when we 1st met, her amazing like the sunshine smile in spite of her health, i was blessed to have met Darlys , i am a breast cancer survior of 6 years. Bless you Darlys ,enjoy the flower garden in heaven.  an Darlys i loved your picture in the paper , you with all that beautiful hair !.......love Lori

My sincere sympathies for the loss of Darlys.  I am a co-worker of Deb's and understand through Deb what a wonderful person her mother-in-law was.  She will be missed and praise God for the time you had with her.  It's apparent that family is very important to your family.  God's blessing to you all.  The heart is never ready to say goodbye....may you find comfort in knowing you will see each other again!

I will miss the eternal smile but someday will see it again.  She is in the arms of Jesus and happy and No more pain.

Hello Bob, My condolences go out to you for the loss of your wife. I hope you are doing fine. I miss working with you.

Hello Bob, My condolences go out to you for the loss of your wife. I hope you are doing fine. I miss working with you.

My prayers go out to the Family of Daryls. I went to Winona Jr & Sr High with her. I am so sorry for your loss.

 

Doris Daniel

La Mesa, California

I was truly blessed to have the opportunity to work with Darlys. I'll always remember her big smile and joy in living. Throughout her battle with cancer, she never complained. She always maintained such a wonderful, positive attitude, even in the face of pain and bad news about her condition. She was an inspiration to everyone who knew her.

My thoughts and prayers are with her family.

Ellen Klein

The world has lost a precious person but Heaven has gained a beautiful soul!

D.J.  you will be greatly missed by all whose lives you have touched, may we never

forget how awesome you truly were.

I will miss you very much!

Nancy

 

I was truly blessed to work with Darlys in Treasury Services.  Her smile was contagious and she lit up the office when she was there.  I will especially miss her hugs and her spirit...She became a good friend and a great role model and showed the rest of us how to appreciate each and every day.

Although I will not be able to attend her Celebration of Life service, I will never forget her.  She taught me so much and I am grateful for the time I was able to spend with her.

My thoughts and prayers are with the family.  I am glad you were with her when she began her journey home to be with her Lord.

 

My Dearest Dar's Family:  You know how much she loved everyone...and I mean everyone!!  She especially loved spending time with you, her children,  grandchildren, and parents,  She also loved those Iowa family reunions!!

Such a zest for LIFE!! and her great love for her Jesus, which turned into her greatest comfort!  My thoughts are constantly with you.  I know we all are more loving and stronger for having known this wonderful gift to us of Darlys Jean!!

 ~Peg

Dear Mike, Deb, Andrew & Tyler,

  Bless your hearts!  Our sincere sympathy to you at this time of your Mom's hom-going.  What a blessing she was~~ and will be in heaven.  It is a comfort to know she is with her Saviour, and that one day you will all see her again.  She was such a sweet and kind Christian lady.  You are in our thoughts and prayers and remember "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints" Ps. 116:15  We love you!

Paul, Theresa and family

Darlys....she set the bar high. Loved by many. Faithful lover of Jesus. A true prayer warrior. My very dear friend and sisiter in christ. Her presence , warm smile. laughter , compassion, and always honest self, have forever been imprinted in my heart.

 What a wonderful gift to have a faithful friend lifting me up in prayer....Faithfully...."Religeously!" I know there were many other's names written in her prayer journal. What a blessing!

 And her kids,,,,,well, you have been coverered and blessed by her belief in the "power of a praying Mom." You brought her so much joy, each in their own way.She spoke with a mother's pride of you all.

Mom and Dad: Darlys was soooo happy to surprise you with a visit, at church, thinking she could pull one over on you....that you may not recognize her. Silly Dar:) She was comforted knowing you would be living so close to home.

 Bob, she loved to have you helping her, caring for her, even if she didn't say so....Oh yes, and did I mention that she was a LITTLE STUBBORN too:) I am smiling now as I remember our many talks about our mutual acquaintances,,,,stubornness and pride. Ha-ha!

 I am so priviledged to have known Darlys. To think it all started with a "make-over" after her initial diagnosis. She was sooooo excited to look and feel pretty again! The truth is, her beauty truly was always there. She just wanted the outside to look and make her feel again, like the person she was on the inside. I remember once, after she had been going through some pretty rough chemo, this time around, I told her, "Darlys, please understand what I mean when I say, you look great. You are radiating. If someone did not "know" that you are fighting cancer and receiving chemo, they would never be able to tell. You look better than ever." She responded by saying to me, "Thank you, it is the Holy Spirit." I believe it is true. For some time, if you would have seen Darlys on paper, or a medical chart, you would have expected to see a frail, sickly,fatigued person near to death. I know she felt all of those things, and the disease did attack her physical body, but she was filled with the presence of the Holy Spirit and that was evident as she courageously lived each day.....loving.

I was so lucky to have Darlys as a friend.  I met her in 1985 in Dallas, TX when I worked with her at an executive suite and she was our always smiling receptionist.  We remained friends up until her death.  She never forgot my birthday, and I will miss the annual tradition of a beautiful homemade card.  Darlys was such a caring person and she loved everyone.  She knew her time was limited and enjoyed each day she was blessed with.  My heart goes out to her family. 

 

My heart is just aching for all of you!  We adore her and everything that she stood for! Living next door to her we shared our lives with one another daily...  My 3 year old, Sheridan, was head over heals for Dar... or in her words DARWIS... Everyday Sheridan would wait for Darlys to come home and jump up and down on the couch and screech DARWIS DARWIS and out the door she would run to get a great big hug and kiss! I will never forget the day we brought our son home from the hospital and how Bob and Darlys were waiting in the driveway to see Sawyer for the first time! We shared so much in the short 3 years we lived there.. I am forever grateful for her friendship, love, and her strong faith.  We were so blessed...

all our love~

alison, eric, sheridan, & sawyer smith

blessed be her memory

My thoughts and prayers are with you all. 

so sorry to the family Of Darlys, she and i kept in touch even after my divorce from scott.

Hugs to the family and may the  stars shine over her always...

Thanks darlys for our chats...

so sorry angie, she loved u dearly... and the grandkids, as well as the boys...

she will always have a place in my heart...

Sandi* In KS

Darlys will be missed!!

Darlys is like a second mom to me. I remember as a kid loading up into the car for the weekend Friday after school for the drive to Winona to Dars. This was every weekend as far as I remember.... one weekend we even picked up a hitchhiker and brought him along with who had just been to Mt. St. Helen's after she erupted!!! I wonder if Dar still has that ash? I remember Jeff always had his stereo going and the song played most often was Manfred Man Blinded by the Light... To this day that song comes on and I think about this time! I remember just having alot of fun.... ALOT of fun! Darlys to her last day always had a smile.... a smile that shined so bright on some of the saddest days for me. I remember when I married my daughters dad and Darlys surprised me at the Hall when we were decorating it for the wedding cause I didn't think she would make it.... well she did! I remember BEGGING (not so much) her to come in for one of my moms birthdays without my mom knowing it... and she came... with her always smiles, cheers and such a positive outlook on EVERYTHING!!!! I remember the last conversation I had with Darlys, She called me asking me to help her with "this stupid fandangled computer" as she called it. She told me she had to click something a million times to get it to work and kept apologizing to me for taking my time!!! I kept telling her for her I had all the time in the world......... After about 30 minutes of her futzing and trying to explain what the issue was we found out she just needed a new mouse. I really wish I had known then that that was the last conversation I was going to have with her here in this world. I am glad I ended that conversation with "I love you!"

Darlys was a sweet person with an infectious smile who always put others first.  I will dearly miss her.  My heart goes out to Bob, Darlys' children/their families and her parents.  Please know I am thinking of each and every one of you.  She fought hard and is now at peace. 

Warmly, Zoei Pritchard & family

All that knew Darlys were very lucky people.  She had a smile that could melt your heart.  It is nice to know that now that she is with the Lord, she is no longer in pain.  I feel privileged to have known her.  She always has had a special place in my heart and always will. I love you Darlys and miss you.

I was blessed to work with Darlys.  I will always remember her smile, her positive attitude and outlook on life and her determination.  She will be greatly missed.

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